Welcome to DBT Mama!
I’m Sara. I’m a mama. I have Borderline Personality Disorder. When I got pregnant I looked for information about how to parent effectively when you have BPD. There wasn’t anything available!
What I found instead was stuff like Surviving the Borderline Parent and Understanding the Borderline Mother. I don’t want my son to “survive” his childhood. I want him to grow up in a nurturing and loving environment! And I certainly don’t think using terms like witch, waif, queen, or witch to describe mothers with BPD is really that understanding.
Googling BPD and Motherhood will lead you to sites like The Psycho Ex Wife.
Witch, waif, psycho ex-wife. Those were the options? Sadly….it spoke volumes of the lack of information and support out there for parents with mental illness.
I wanted something more. I wanted want to be a good mama. I want to parent my child effectively.
I want him to have a stable childhood, to be emotionally healthy, and to think of me as his secure base.
So, being a smart and resourceful kind of girl I cobbled together a kind of parenting method based on DBT, attachment parenting, and aspects of early childhood educational philosophies like Montessori and Waldorf. This blog is my attempt to articulate it and share what I have learned. And hopefully learn from others! And continue learning as I go.
DBT Mama 